As parents. how do we develop our children’s future careers? I listened to a man share his story on the career choice he currently works in. His interest, designing shoes. His story starting as a young boy. Our pastor is teaching a series on partnering with God, as we work in the jobs he gives us. He brought up five people in various careers to share how God is using them, in their individual and very different job. The shoe guy struck a cord with me. He said that a 5th grade report card said something like, “grades might improve with less shoe drawings.” I chuckled and could relate, and then asked myself. How am I encouraging my young boys in the God given gifts they have?
Do we see as parents, the very gifts that God designed in our children? Are we aware of them? Do we then build opportunities around our children to grow in those passions. I am going to use Ethan as an example. He is OBSESSED with airplanes. He was never a crayon or marker kid. He wanted a fine point to design and draw airplanes. I use to sit for hours and read “fact” book on airplanes. It made no sense to me, but that was his reading choice. Now that he is a strong reader he has taking this plane thing and gives new meaning to his passions with long studies of World Wars and how planes were used. What am I doing to continue to grow this passion in Ethan? Being deaf, some say that he may never fly a plane. I am not going to be the one to crush that dream. He is going to pursue his dreams and as parents we do all we can to bring more of his passions to him. Our last visit to the Air Museum in McMinnville turned into a private tutor and showing for Ethan. An old pilot with a young boy asking questions. Taking Ethan from one plane to the next. Asking me how on earth this little boy knows so much. (Good Will has tons of books to collect on planes.) All of Ethan’s school papers come home with airplanes doodled all over. Drawings with battles going on. Airplanes on the cover of his biweekly report, to the point that his teacher, bless her heart, allows him to make that cover page of planes.
I think about Emily and her music love. Asking me when she was 12 years old if she could have a mandolin. Okay, sure.
Elliot picking up a guitar. He was the walking guitar player all through junior high and high school. Those early years of listening to him teach himself, and those painful cords being play over and over. Now worship pastor at a church.
As parents, speaking of the wonders of how God gives us our desires and passions. It may not make sense to me, but it does make sense to a child who had not had the limitations of an authority in their life who shuts those interests and passions down. Sometimes our own fears are what keep our children from climbing higher and higher.
That man at church reflecting back to his childhood of taking a pencil to paper to design athletic shoes. Would he being doing this, if he was shut down and redirected to something else? As parents do we provide the opportunities to build interest and growth for our children.
I have asked God over and over why He gives me so many blessings in the same career that has followed me for the past 22 years. I love it. I enjoy what I do. The blessing of working for myself, which allowed me to also be a full time stay home mom. Double blessings. Not working now for almost five years, and the minute all the kids are in school the doors open up to go right back to what I was doing. Why God? Why do you keep dropping me back into this?
I was the girl who always had people encouraging me. I was the girl who always helped their friend’s change their rooms around. My parents let me decorate my bedroom exactly how I wanted it. While my friends were looking at teen magazine I was pouring over Architectual Digest on our coffee table. I was the girl who sewed all the matching bedding, curtains, place-mats and napkins for my college dorm room. I have never been board in all these years. I have grumbled at times when sitting over a sewing machine, but I thank God that he has given me a gift that I can use. More importantly I get to be in this world, rubbing elbows with people who do not know Christ. Who ask me questions about my life and I get to give God credit for the blessings in my life. My parents did encourage the designer in me. I have to admit I rebelled the idea of this for a short while. But they provided the resources for me to use the depth of my passions that God designed in me.
Looking to my children and those little minds being developed.
Am I developing the passions in my boys and one girl? Is there really something about the 7 year old who can play with a calculator for two hours and is a total geek with numbers, facts, math. I really wanted to ask Eric if he wanted the pencil pack to go with it. A dollar investment in a calculator. Feeding his God given passions. I don’t get it. A calculator, really. He comes from a long history of engineers and rumor has it his Pop-Pop, Uncle, and cousin, all engineers and they too found joy in this kind of young play.
Praying that my children will grow in their passions, understand how God has designed them. Also praying that David and I will continue to encourage them in developing their future careers.
How are you Developing Our Kid’s Future Careers?